The universe has intertwined our basic instinctive (animal instincts) and motivational needs (personal and social well being needs) just well enough so that we’re not able to get rid of any of them exclusively. They are all associated with each other in some or the other way. For example, the need to feel associated with people, the basic need for belongingness is associated with the need to express ourselves. If we don’t express ourselves, we won’t be able to participate in the mutual give and take that humanity is all about.
This isn’t about being a people pleaser. This is about a natural way of being accepted when people like you for who you are. This does not mean we should be what we’re not for the sole purpose of being accepted by people. When what you express is in tandem with what people find acceptable, both of those needs (belongingness and expression) are satisfied.
Is this what keeps us going? Needs? All our life we struggle to not have any needs so that we don’t find ourselves being vulnerable in situations that life throws at us, but at the end, what would we be without these needs?
Well, if they are so important for our survival, why run away from them? Better embrace them and accept them because that’s just what makes us human and we’re all fundamentally the same.